 Hellooooo and I hope it was a delightful Pride Weekend (it was just this past weekend here in Seattle).
Summer Support is still available, y’all… only because life continues to happen… 100% of the time. Yup, trips to the beach, day trips or long weekends, concerts, hikes, and BBQs... so fun! And.. so much extra work too… different groceries, packing, unpacking, communications with all sorts, pet care arrangements, work & managing days off… tons of additional details. SO MUCH (more) ACTIVITY happens right about soon… What else? Moves and changes also happen over summertimes. People sometimes pass and die in the summer... Relationships change or break… diagnoses are sometimes discovered over summers.... Feelings emerge as you notice kids are growing up. Big time. There is value and tenderness in swimming parties, new shoes, and around the campfires… seeing your kids in the summer’s glow. ALL of the emotions around previous summertime pains, changes, and flows may come forward to be acknowledged and honored. The body remembers... and yes, it does keep the score as well... This is real life and living... And it's never moved so fast before. It’s time for more support… not less If you think you don’t have time… in fact, if you’re convinced there’s no possible way to engage in more support for yourself… well, you may in fact need it more than most. With so much happening so quickly, I do encourage the idea that more support is actually NEEDED. –and I know this is exactly true for me too– Now is the exact time to act and opt-in for more of your own well being... to include your own dear self... and to receive that loving support too. HeckYEAH! SO you can ... 🥳Really BE at those BBQs to celebrate & relax… without missing a thing 😍 Absolutely BE more present with family members... no matter what is happening, or not happening 🥳Feel connected more easily and genuinely in any setting you choose to show up in… enjoy being pre-disposed to having a good time for yourself and with others 😎 Clearly and decidedly opt-out of anything you want with love and boundaries that honor and respect your own wishes 🤯Feel seen and heard by a professional coach as you feel, decide, and choose your own next right steps without having to take care of anyone else's feelings or ideas 🪨 Discover what it's like to BE and FEEL supported and cared for on days like Pride, and 4th of July, and also prep for the rest of the holidays of the year (if you desire) Did you know? Specific care, attention, and time receiving coaching support offloads challenging emotions, circumstances, and decisions with greater ease and efficiency so you actually GET MORE QUALITY SUMMER in your summer months. A little time each week will go a long way, friends. Zoom or phone so connecting is a breeze. With more support, you actually get more time for YOU to spend and enjoy and relax... in these next months and beyond. Summer Dreams Take a sec and consider the rest of your summer … What would you' love to experience?... Then, connect with me to make it happen. Setting yourself free is a worthy bucket list experience… I’d love to work with you on this. Complete the private coaching application … filling this out will start the transformation-ball rolling and feelings of support will actually start flowing… Fill it out now and see for yourself. I'm ready. I got you. Let's GO!  Setting yourself free is a worthy bucket list item.
Worthy, as in… YOU are worthy… of this and more. Period. Emergence can be experienced by any person moving through a transition, a challenge, a season, or into a new sense of self… some would call this a new sense of identity. Emergence did not feel fabulous when I came out. But it was necessary… and it was something I had to pay attention to. Meaning, I couldn’t stuff it, deny it, avoid it, or resist it. Was it inconvenient? For sure. And painful. And scary. And worth it. I felt so called (and called out) by Life… that I had to come out as a lesbian. This was true for me… I came out when I was 32. There have been mannnnny many stories of Emergence in my life. This is one. And it’s valuable. And it’s mine. If you’re moving through a tough transition… it’s okay if it doesn’t look like a glow up right now. This is a moment… and you deserve all of the love, care, and support that you want and need to get through to Emergence. It’s a beautiful thing…. Your entire path and your whole self are beautiful and valuable. I appreciate you and all of the courage it takes to continue moving forward, dear reader. Life is not easy. But wow, what a ride! Here’s to a delightful Pride Weekend… for any and all who celebrate (hug!) On going all in on your own dear self The feedback I get in my work is that people tend to feel better when they are around me… and that my coaching works. If you’d like to talk about private coaching with me, here’s how to get started… and I wholeheartedly invite you! Please complete a pre-consult application. Just filling it out will also change your life...it is powerful… #justsayin I'm ready... I got you... Let's GO!  In the United States, where I live, Father’s Day is coming up this weekend.
Whether your father, or father figure is a loved one, or a less-than-loved-one, this relationship may impact other relationships. The dynamic may actually influence many other relationships… personal, romantic, business, or with other elders in your life. Take a second and consider how that could be true for you. It makes sense When it comes to parental figures, (be they biological, adoptive, guardian, foster or otherwise) these are often some of the oldest relationships we have on the planet this time around. There are beliefs, ideas, and traditions that may have been part of your growing up may be serving you really well… or not. And some of what’s been taught to you may now be part of your unconscious mind. This was true for me around how I was taught to save money, and what to save it for, based on how my dad did it. What I didn’t take into account was this: We were never building the same things. And. We were never saving for the same things. I felt that I had to do it the same way he did it, based on how I was brought up, what he lovingly suggested, which was all based on his own experience… in his career, and long retirement. My work and career as a business owner, service provider, entrepreneur is radically different from anything he knows about work. The way money is stewarded and needed as an entrepreneur is also different from what my dad knows of work. His care and attention about dollars and retirement are completely about him and his experience… and rightly so. But I, with my creativity and independence and eagerness to do my own thing? It was never going to look like, behave like, or appear similar in most ways to what my dad has built or what he knows. With appreciation, when I understood this and saw it more plainly for my own self, I got to experience some relief from the pressure I applied to myself -for decades- since our paths, our affluence levels, and our results were very different… they were always going to be different… what changed was, I got to take myself off the hook for that simply being the case. I stopped making myself wrong for what I was creating… as though is was less valuable or incorrect, since it didn’t follow what he demonstrated or offered guidance toward. Valuing my own path, and how it looks and needs to work for me is actually more comfortable for me… it’s got it’s own learning curves, for sure… but I’ve got less judgement taking up my energy and this makes all the difference for me… and also for us. I can appreciate my dad’s path and what he’s created and how he knew how to care for all of us in my family of origin (FOO)... His experience is about him… and I can see that and appreciate him more easily and genuinely when I also give my own path the value and respect it deserves. It’s a process. And it’s totally possible. PS - Have you registered for the Solstice Shift Event? LOVE to have you join us for our first seasonal shift event… it’s an honoring and a reset… closing out one season, and opening up to the next… in flow. Register Now… The Virtual Solstice Shift Event happens on June 21 and there’s room for you!... https://the-juicy-good-life.mykajabi.com/solstice-shift-live-event Consider it a seasonal reset and join us in closing out the Spring Season and Opening Up to a Deeper Summer for yourself… even if you feel like you didn’t get a Spring season… this is about honoring and about the flow of the seasons… so you don’t miss any of the seasons in your own life this year. C’mon, c’mon…. Register Now! https://the-juicy-good-life.mykajabi.com/solstice-shift-live-event
It’s time for a summer shed… not the kind in the backyard or creepy forest… no…
Sweet release is indeed imminent … It’s time to shed… as in… a verb. It’s an excellent time to shed… Old painful feelings, challenging emotions, seething judgements, wracking worries... let's take the summer and move 'em on out... of your body and mind. Emergence as a process from these old feelings, old emo baggage? You haven't learned it YET. Emergence as a feeling... being on the other side and having your footing, your whole and steady heart, and some energy? This is a form of freedom. Begin - for yourself - this summer... June is less than 2 weeks away... OF COURSE you deserve this care & attention. YES.? I've got space for 2 people in my summer schedule for 1x1 private coaching for June, July & August... we meet weekly, virtually... and dedicated time is spent on, with, and for YOU. Only you. You don't have to take care of annnnnybody else in our time. NOPE. You get listened to, heard, seen, and supported. Just your dear self. And you've been wanting and needing this attention and care. And you deserve it. Especially now. Especially you. Imminent sweet release begins when you complete the private coaching application... this alone will begin your shift into more freedom and Emergence: Start your own summer release right now: Application is on this page… let’s GO! PS - Have you registered for the Solstice Shift Event? LOVE to have you join us for our first seasonal shift event… it’s an honoring and a reset… closing out one season, and opening up to the next… in flow. Register Now… Virtual Event happens on June 21 and there’s room for you!  Another Event for you? YESSSSS… we’re talking Summer Solstice!
Collaboration & co-creation bear the gifts of energy, momentum, & ideation! I met my co-creator of this Solstice Shift event just almost a year ago… she is a phenomenal woman, business coach, and has THE HUGEST HEART… her name is Sarah Stokes. And we knew we wanted to do something special together… we had no idea HOW special… until now. What’s the plan? On the day of Summer Solstice… we meet. Either: IRL… if you’re local to Wisconsin & Sarah, or Virtually… on Zoom. Consider it a kind of Seasonal Reset, if you will… Included will be: A Grief Shifting Session with me… it TOTALLY WORKS VIRTUALLY… it’s a Reiki Energy shift designed expressly for movement of stuck feelings whether it’s grief, loss, heartbreak, resentment, bitterness, frustration, annoyance, fury… or some other unpleasant feelings. Create & Live From Your Compassion Plan Session with Sarah… whaaaat?!?!? Yes, especially for women business owners & entrepreneurs… This is a very special, incredibly powerful offer from Sarah and I cannot wait for you to benefit from her incredible gifts and wisdom. A Full-On Sound Bath Experience with Rachelle: Sound baths work beautifully on Zoom, btw… please do plan and have headphones for best results & enjoyment. Rachelle is located in Wisconsin and is an integral part of Sarah’s service lineups. You need to know right here, right now… YOU are invited and wanted inside of this group & hybrid experience. Save the date, friends… details are forthcomin’ with so much love. For Now: Save June 21 for yourself and us… Most of the business day… YES. You deserve this time and space to reset with phenomenal energy, other women on the day a season changes. It’s so beautiful. You’ve got plans for Summer Solstice, my friend! Registration is now open! https://the-juicy-good-life.mykajabi.com/solstice-shift-live-event PS: Be on the lookout for more Season-Changing Quarterly Events like this one too!!  *Announciiiiiing!*
The Emergence Podcast Project is being created as we speak! … or, uh… as you read! The new podcast will be dropping on June 5… just a couple of short weeks away! Stay tuned here or on FB for details & links. I’m thrilled to be creating this for us! On to our regular visit for this week: If kids get to go to summer camps or activities, what do you get to do? Yes, they get to have fun... Absolutely. What - besides taking care of them - do YOU get? Relief that they are taken care of... yes. Quieter house & schedule... maybe. AND What Else? 🤿 This is your summer too. I think you deserve intentional time to be seen, heard, cared for, and coached this WHOLE summer. Some Summer Coaching activities for us could include: 🧳 Offload, unpack, debrief, release, vent, share about what you've been navigating... 🔥 Feel seen, heard, and safe without ... having to take care of anyone else or worry about what anyone else will think, say, or do being interrupted when you're sharing something important 🙋♀️ Connecting, clarifying, regrouping, grounding, protecting, and focusing ⚫ Emerging from a shadow season, or overwhelm and into freedom... where you have more time, more emotional availability, and more presence in your own life. Your own imminent summer could totally blow your own mind and heart wide open into being more alive... You could be experiencing more aliveness... Immediately. 2 spots this summer... all summer... June, July, & August is our time --usually I work in 1 year containers -- So this is SPECIAL. Coaching begins... and your summer transformation begins when you complete a private coaching application… on this page. I'm ready for you. I got you.  We create the stories of our lives WITH
the living that we are doing today. And, gentle reminder, we're all - each one of us - going to BECOME stories to someone else as well. Get gently unstuck and move forward in your own dear life with your Emergence Coach… ME ! We'll shift your emotional coal into gold* with a steady, supportive, specific process. MORE here... (& PS there's always more) *I know, per science, that diamonds come from coal… But in the alchemy I practice, we don’t use pressure… so we get gold.  Hello, hello… You hanging in there after the Full Moon in Scorpio last week?
Plus, note to us, May is still & most definitely Mental Health Awareness Month. I know I’m feeling it The “emotions whoooosh” is real for me. I’m guessing emotions are real for you too. Big changes and transformations include…NO…., require the processing of some bigger-than-usual emotions. Now, more than ever, it’s time to learn and practice safe and important skills… such as how to feel a feeling. But alone is not the way to learn, practice, or integrate this. Not ALL alone, anyway. There’s a place, a community, and there is room for you Join the Going Inside Program and rest in a real and dedicated space, with a real coach (me!). Receive support and navigate emotions in harmony and care… share and/or process what’s going on with gentle and practical tools. Let’s imagine what it could be like to have a confidential place, with likeminded people… where you knew and felt support in new ways that nurtured you? Encouraged you? What would it be like to have a place where you can…
The Going Inside program offers 2 weekly, 1-hour coaching calls and lasts 12 months. The fee? $150/month for 12 months. (or pay in full for the deepest possible discount and enjoy the support and care for a year.) Honestly, I pay more than this $150/month fee, also out of pocket, for medical and clinical support… for one session. Yep… $150+ per session vs. $150/total for the month for up to 8 sessions in that same month. Wild, right? Check your schedule & make a plan… Group Calls are Mondays & Wednesdays at 3pm Pacific. As a member, you’ll be able to access the replays inside of a private portal. The group calls are just the beginning… Review the Going Inside Program now for yourself. A complete menu of different kinds of supports are available all in this one program. You’ve been grossly under-supported. It’s time for more care, for your own dear self, right now. I’ve got you… and it’s time you were Going Inside.  Without support, shadow or grief work can feel like an utter slog.
Heavy, uncertain, painful, and hard to know if any movement or progress is happening. Plus, it sounds so fun, right? I know that for me, more than once, I’ve distracted myself with other things that were preferable at the moment, because I didn’t want to “go there’. These things included:
Does this resonate with anyone? I was going to some lengths to not feel my feelings. I was working hard in my avoidance. Sure, a few things got done around the house… yes, there’s also some merit there…. AND…the “bonus” I wasn’t looking for… I also totally prolonged my own grief season… with my own resistance and avoidance. Not the ideal. Nope. And, I didn’t know. Please hear me when I say this is not a shameful thing. Resistance as a speed bump Resistance? It’s a natural thing… a human thing… It took me a while to easily skip the judgement on my own human wiring… including this component. So back to resistance. It’s like a speed bump in the road on the way to a party. -I heard this line from Alan Cohen in A Course in Miracles Made Easy- In real life, you’re not usually going to turn the car around and go home if there’s a speed bump in the road. We make a sense of resistance mean Don’t do the thing you want/need But we humans, in this time and culture - because we haven’t yet been taught any of the basics about living inside our human bodies - make the speed bumps of resistance mean “go back”... or for my LOTR friends, “You shall not pass.” Our human, highly healthy, completely natural working brains get scared. Resistance often & almost always stems from uncertainty, unfamiliarity, or potential danger. This, right here, all day long, includes not feeling our feelings. It’s understandable… and you don’t need another “job” The prospect of taking on resistance to move through hard feelings can feel like an extra job… one you already don’t have time for… & don’t know how to navigate. So far we’ve been talking about navigating without support. Let’s look at an equally available option… With support With support, the journey can go smoother, pitfalls & rabbit holes can be avoided, reframes and nurturing supports are easy, abundant, & available… It’s a deeper, more thorough journey where the person you’ve hired walks their own walk, and has arrived on the other side of some of their worst nightmares, with peace. Let’s be clear on who you are investing in here… You’re not investing in the professional…(in this case, me). In coaching or any kind of support, the person considering support is not doing so for the benefit or furtherance of the professional. Shoot, I’ve already invested in myself for my journey… with time, money, heart, mistakes, resistance, understanding, eagerness, willingness, curiosity. And I’m still actively investing in all of the ways, for my own self. Why? Because I want more aliveness in my life. And I now know that I get it when I am nurtured and supported. So, for you…You’re investing in your own dear self. Complete with surprises on the way… complete with aliveness and more living in your own life. A little known fact… Even on a notoriously heavy and serious part of a life path, there can be (& usually is) some laughter, some lightness and some momentum… it’s part of the journey, and it can be sprinkled in and experienced early and often. These bits of lightness also allow and encourage us to keep going. Learning to receive during a heart healing from loss journey You can also learn to better receive in all ways, plus learn to love, and look for more, support on this journey. Really want to acknowledge that this can feel especially risky during grief or heartbreak. This is also a completely natural sense… and… feeling risky doesn’t have to mean anything one way or another about your decision. Your readiness to move forward to learn how to release emotional pain and keep all the good stuff is not contingent on feeling 100% absolutely ready. This is also true when we make large investments… sometimes aka commitments… in houses and cars. It feels risky, and we sign. It feels risky, and we move forward with that feeling. One more thing… I’m going to be playing with how I refer to the services I offer… I’m not calling it “Grief Work” anymore. Like I said above, you don’t need another job or role. So let’s begin by playing with this… With me as your coach, reiki practitioner, and intuitive guide, all in one, let’s consider the process more like…. Ahem…. Emotional Swimming Lessons I don’t know that this is the name… but it gives you a better sense of working with me, and of my approach. Imagine what you could do and feel with more support… not more work. (take all the time you need here to really imagine more support in this time and space…. You 100% deserve it and more.) Listen… I have space available for a few private clients right now. I work with only 8 at a time. Complete the initial application and let’s get you swimmin’ toward more aliveness: https://www.wendysloneker.com/grief_recovery_services.html  We’re in the final few days of April, already… and my focus is shifting toward May.
It’s Mental Health Awareness Month and I’ve got a couple of digital events to share with you. Links are here, please register for what sounds fantastic, useful, or supportive. Also, if you have loved ones who could benefit, feel free to forward this whole dang message on to them as well. Okay, here are the 2 events you are wholeheartedly invited to: 1. How to Feel a Feeling Training: Let’s Go Again! May 4th at 4pm Pacific on Zoom A recording was totally promised on the last training… AND I forgot to hit “record” - dangit!!! So, let’s go again! BTW, in the April training we practiced a few specific feelings… We will be practicing totally different ones in May… so if you were there in April, there will be new material to work with. Come on in again! Register today. It’s free, on Zoom, and it’ll be another way to increase/improve emotional intelligence too. 2. Announcing the Shadow Side Leadership Summit: Embrace Your Shadow to Strengthen Your Light This is a totally digital event. And free. Taking place May 19-21 from Noon -3pm Pacific each day. This is a brand new event that I get to participate in with several stunning coaches in our world! It’s truly exciting and I hope you’ll give yourself a moment or two to scan the offerings and topics and see if any appeal to you. I’ll be teaching a new workshop… It's not new material to me, but it’s a new presentation. Usually I reserve this for 1x1 clients, but I’ve made it available to learn in a workshop, so that’s what we’ll be doing in this Summit. What is it? Oh, Friends… I’m so glad you asked… It’s the simple & straightforward art of Resentment Melting If you are someone who experiences resentment as an almost poisonous, seething, feeling, you’re not alone. I’ve personally spent a lot of time in resentment… I did learn a lot in 12-step rooms about resentment, but this is different… I still needed different and more care around this habitual, energy-stealing feeling. I found myself in resentment sometimes because I wanted to, but mostly because I didn’t realize I was doing it or didn’t know how to get out of it. I needed something different, and more support… so I created a new tool/protocol. Hence, Resentment Melting. I’d love to have you in the Summit to learn this for your whole dear self. While this Summit is aimed to serve business owners, there’s lots to choose from that can be helpful, useful, and applicable to those employed, retired, or just looking to learn more about shadow work or personal development. Register for the whole event today. What else? I do still have space in my schedule for 1x1 Clients. I work with eight (8) 1x1 clients at a time and there is plenty of room, time, and care for you to enjoy premium, professional support through loss. Schedule a Connection Call and let’s talk about it. |