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Green Light Fear or Red Light Fear… what?!?!?!

7/12/2023

 
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Have you heard of the concept of green-light fear vs red-light fear? I heard this a couple of weeks ago from my coach, Serena Hicks.

And the basics are: 

Green-light fear is a sensation in your body and mind that spark excitement, trepidation, apprehension, and perhaps even some sweat and butterflies. 

Green-light fear can come up when we humans are facing change, considering conscious navigation of loss/es, obstacles, growth, and/or challenges… even dreams.

This form of fear can feel like a kind of death… even a form of ego death… or,  a type of surrender to make room for new good, and new life.

Even though it may feel like a kind of death, there’s still lots and loads of life to be lived through it. 

Red-light fear? Well, that’s where we’re talking about actual danger. Risk and potential or real mortal peril. Full stop. The end.

I’m not here to bad-mouth red-light fear. Not at all. Red-light fear is a real and useful tool when lives are at stake. Personal development is not part of red-light fear for me or for my clients.


Normalizing Green-Light Fear 
AND… when it comes to growth, emergence, and a little bit of new life… I’m always talking about green-light fear. 

It’s not wrong that you’ve got sensations in your body… those are part of our sense of aliveness. Needed. Useful. Maybe not always comfortable, but useful signals for you to catch and interpret.

It’s not even “wrong” if you’ve got ideas and dreams that just won’t go away, even though there’s apprehension about taking next steps…. Even if you’ve talked yourself out of taking your ideas and dreams seriously… if those notions and desires are still there, it’s not too late. 

Green-light fear is ultimately about living and aliveness. Going Inside your own dear self to discover more, learn and explore… and to, yes, bring in new life and new understanding.

Red-light fear is about discernment of safety, and your actual life-or-death in high-stakes moments. These are actually more on the rare–side than they were decades ago.

Connect with me about getting started in the Going Inside membership. Your space for semi-private self-development where you are connected and protected …as you learn to give yourself your own green lights. 


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