We went to the Oregon Coast for 5 days last week. Monday through Friday.
Our annual trip, just a few days, and just us are the ideal. And it was a delight… well, a week of quiet delights.
We went and put our bodies and selves into a quiet space, with a gorgeous view of Haystack Rock, and we made minimal requests and demands on ourselves, our relationship, and each other. We gave ourselves breathing room. Days of it.
This is something that many clients are longing for and noticing a real need for… breathing room. Not necessarily a vacation… but definitely room to breeeeathe.
The first 2 days were really dreamy. Loving, spacious… delightful, even.
And then on the 3rd day, I got uncomfortable.
So much time, quiet, and space! My modern-world, human conditioning and ego mind started piping up and getting bossy… antsy. There was discomfort … and an underlying sense of… fear?... with the very gift I desired.
For the brain, this can be viewed as irrational.
For the heart… and even for my gut… this is completely understandable.
With so much quiet and space, important options came up… things like,
But first, there was discomfort. Even on vacation.
This is part of why evenings and nighttimes can be really uncomfortable. There is stillness, and quiet, and more space after the busy-ness of the day winds down.
And feelings are there… questions are there… they come forward because there is room without distraction. What’s difficult about this is, after a full day of being in the swirl of busy-ness, it’s hard for a grieving or changing human to feel those feelings or listen for the answers… there’s often no energy left. And no sense of knowing how to “do it”.
More than anything, this is natural… discomfort can arise in the stillness.
These are learnable skills… to feel feelings, and to ride out the discomfort without reacting or wreaking havoc on relationships, work or business, or your health and well being.
Nope, it doesn’t have to take “forever.” It actually goes pretty quickly… but what is needed first is the willingness to take on the journey to learn.
This is what I walk through with my clients in confidential, private sessions.
Would we be a good fit to work together?
Schedule your free call to connect with me and we’ll talk about your next steps through this season. We will find out together.
*** Heart Healing From Loss will be released this Saturday! ***
Yes, Oct 14… the New Moon… on purpose. This is my newest nonfiction book. I’ve been working on this for most of this year and am thrilled to release it to our world.
How it will work
EBook comes first… paperback very shortly after…then, the whole thing goes into production for an audiobook version in 2024.
EBook pre-orders are available now.
Definitely follow my author page on Amazon for details of all books coming out …more word searches are on the way too!
Search for Heart Healing from Loss on Amazon…
or, click this link: https://a.co/d/bORHWca for the eBook version.
The cover looks like this:
This book will be available November 2… or earlier.
Pre-orders will be charged and delivered on that day - or earlier.
At this one moment, eBook (Kindle) copies are available for pre-order.
There will be a paperback and hardcover versions available asap.
The manuscript is in proofing and will go to formatting, stat.
Yes, I’ve been working on this project all year.
And I haven’t been doing it alone.
I’ve engaged excellent additional writing support, cover design expertise, and proofreading power.
This is the best book it can be… with the best support I can share.
One of my favorite parts?
Simple, meaningful (optional) responses to the baffling, excruciating, and often-daunting questions
Options are offered in a bit of a list form so readers may copy, develop, or modify the support requests as is most useful to the individual and family.
I haven’t seen this so spelled out in any other book about navigating loss. And I’ve read and scoured more than a few.
So glad. So proud. My heart is full of excited anticipation.
Pre-order the eBook now.
Or wait for the paperback option - it’s coming! (in both regular and large print editions.)