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It’s time for a summer shed… not the kind in the backyard or creepy forest… no…
Sweet release is indeed imminent … It’s time to shed… as in… a verb. It’s an excellent time to shed… Old painful feelings, challenging emotions, seething judgements, wracking worries... let's take the summer and move 'em on out... of your body and mind. Emergence as a process from these old feelings, old emo baggage? You haven't learned it YET. Emergence as a feeling... being on the other side and having your footing, your whole and steady heart, and some energy? This is a form of freedom. Begin - for yourself - this summer... June is less than 2 weeks away... OF COURSE you deserve this care & attention. YES.? I've got space for 2 people in my summer schedule for 1x1 private coaching for June, July & August... we meet weekly, virtually... and dedicated time is spent on, with, and for YOU. Only you. You don't have to take care of annnnnybody else in our time. NOPE. You get listened to, heard, seen, and supported. Just your dear self. And you've been wanting and needing this attention and care. And you deserve it. Especially now. Especially you. Imminent sweet release begins when you complete the private coaching application... this alone will begin your shift into more freedom and Emergence: Start your own summer release right now: Application is on this page… let’s GO! PS - Have you registered for the Solstice Shift Event? LOVE to have you join us for our first seasonal shift event… it’s an honoring and a reset… closing out one season, and opening up to the next… in flow. Register Now… Virtual Event happens on June 21 and there’s room for you!  Another Event for you? YESSSSS… we’re talking Summer Solstice!
Collaboration & co-creation bear the gifts of energy, momentum, & ideation! I met my co-creator of this Solstice Shift event just almost a year ago… she is a phenomenal woman, business coach, and has THE HUGEST HEART… her name is Sarah Stokes. And we knew we wanted to do something special together… we had no idea HOW special… until now. What’s the plan? On the day of Summer Solstice… we meet. Either: IRL… if you’re local to Wisconsin & Sarah, or Virtually… on Zoom. Consider it a kind of Seasonal Reset, if you will… Included will be: A Grief Shifting Session with me… it TOTALLY WORKS VIRTUALLY… it’s a Reiki Energy shift designed expressly for movement of stuck feelings whether it’s grief, loss, heartbreak, resentment, bitterness, frustration, annoyance, fury… or some other unpleasant feelings. Create & Live From Your Compassion Plan Session with Sarah… whaaaat?!?!? Yes, especially for women business owners & entrepreneurs… This is a very special, incredibly powerful offer from Sarah and I cannot wait for you to benefit from her incredible gifts and wisdom. A Full-On Sound Bath Experience with Rachelle: Sound baths work beautifully on Zoom, btw… please do plan and have headphones for best results & enjoyment. Rachelle is located in Wisconsin and is an integral part of Sarah’s service lineups. You need to know right here, right now… YOU are invited and wanted inside of this group & hybrid experience. Save the date, friends… details are forthcomin’ with so much love. For Now: Save June 21 for yourself and us… Most of the business day… YES. You deserve this time and space to reset with phenomenal energy, other women on the day a season changes. It’s so beautiful. You’ve got plans for Summer Solstice, my friend! Registration is now open! https://the-juicy-good-life.mykajabi.com/solstice-shift-live-event PS: Be on the lookout for more Season-Changing Quarterly Events like this one too!!  *Announciiiiiing!*
The Emergence Podcast Project is being created as we speak! … or, uh… as you read! The new podcast will be dropping on June 5… just a couple of short weeks away! Stay tuned here or on FB for details & links. I’m thrilled to be creating this for us! On to our regular visit for this week: If kids get to go to summer camps or activities, what do you get to do? Yes, they get to have fun... Absolutely. What - besides taking care of them - do YOU get? Relief that they are taken care of... yes. Quieter house & schedule... maybe. AND What Else? 🤿 This is your summer too. I think you deserve intentional time to be seen, heard, cared for, and coached this WHOLE summer. Some Summer Coaching activities for us could include: 🧳 Offload, unpack, debrief, release, vent, share about what you've been navigating... 🔥 Feel seen, heard, and safe without ... having to take care of anyone else or worry about what anyone else will think, say, or do being interrupted when you're sharing something important 🙋♀️ Connecting, clarifying, regrouping, grounding, protecting, and focusing ⚫ Emerging from a shadow season, or overwhelm and into freedom... where you have more time, more emotional availability, and more presence in your own life. Your own imminent summer could totally blow your own mind and heart wide open into being more alive... You could be experiencing more aliveness... Immediately. 2 spots this summer... all summer... June, July, & August is our time --usually I work in 1 year containers -- So this is SPECIAL. Coaching begins... and your summer transformation begins when you complete a private coaching application… on this page. I'm ready for you. I got you.  We create the stories of our lives WITH
the living that we are doing today. And, gentle reminder, we're all - each one of us - going to BECOME stories to someone else as well. Get gently unstuck and move forward in your own dear life with your Emergence Coach… ME ! We'll shift your emotional coal into gold* with a steady, supportive, specific process. MORE here... (& PS there's always more) *I know, per science, that diamonds come from coal… But in the alchemy I practice, we don’t use pressure… so we get gold.  Hello, hello… You hanging in there after the Full Moon in Scorpio last week?
Plus, note to us, May is still & most definitely Mental Health Awareness Month. I know I’m feeling it The “emotions whoooosh” is real for me. I’m guessing emotions are real for you too. Big changes and transformations include…NO…., require the processing of some bigger-than-usual emotions. Now, more than ever, it’s time to learn and practice safe and important skills… such as how to feel a feeling. But alone is not the way to learn, practice, or integrate this. Not ALL alone, anyway. There’s a place, a community, and there is room for you Join the Going Inside Program and rest in a real and dedicated space, with a real coach (me!). Receive support and navigate emotions in harmony and care… share and/or process what’s going on with gentle and practical tools. Let’s imagine what it could be like to have a confidential place, with likeminded people… where you knew and felt support in new ways that nurtured you? Encouraged you? What would it be like to have a place where you can…
The Going Inside program offers 2 weekly, 1-hour coaching calls and lasts 12 months. The fee? $150/month for 12 months. (or pay in full for the deepest possible discount and enjoy the support and care for a year.) Honestly, I pay more than this $150/month fee, also out of pocket, for medical and clinical support… for one session. Yep… $150+ per session vs. $150/total for the month for up to 8 sessions in that same month. Wild, right? Check your schedule & make a plan… Group Calls are Mondays & Wednesdays at 3pm Pacific. As a member, you’ll be able to access the replays inside of a private portal. The group calls are just the beginning… Review the Going Inside Program now for yourself. A complete menu of different kinds of supports are available all in this one program. You’ve been grossly under-supported. It’s time for more care, for your own dear self, right now. I’ve got you… and it’s time you were Going Inside.  Without support, shadow or grief work can feel like an utter slog.
Heavy, uncertain, painful, and hard to know if any movement or progress is happening. Plus, it sounds so fun, right? I know that for me, more than once, I’ve distracted myself with other things that were preferable at the moment, because I didn’t want to “go there’. These things included:
Does this resonate with anyone? I was going to some lengths to not feel my feelings. I was working hard in my avoidance. Sure, a few things got done around the house… yes, there’s also some merit there…. AND…the “bonus” I wasn’t looking for… I also totally prolonged my own grief season… with my own resistance and avoidance. Not the ideal. Nope. And, I didn’t know. Please hear me when I say this is not a shameful thing. Resistance as a speed bump Resistance? It’s a natural thing… a human thing… It took me a while to easily skip the judgement on my own human wiring… including this component. So back to resistance. It’s like a speed bump in the road on the way to a party. -I heard this line from Alan Cohen in A Course in Miracles Made Easy- In real life, you’re not usually going to turn the car around and go home if there’s a speed bump in the road. We make a sense of resistance mean Don’t do the thing you want/need But we humans, in this time and culture - because we haven’t yet been taught any of the basics about living inside our human bodies - make the speed bumps of resistance mean “go back”... or for my LOTR friends, “You shall not pass.” Our human, highly healthy, completely natural working brains get scared. Resistance often & almost always stems from uncertainty, unfamiliarity, or potential danger. This, right here, all day long, includes not feeling our feelings. It’s understandable… and you don’t need another “job” The prospect of taking on resistance to move through hard feelings can feel like an extra job… one you already don’t have time for… & don’t know how to navigate. So far we’ve been talking about navigating without support. Let’s look at an equally available option… With support With support, the journey can go smoother, pitfalls & rabbit holes can be avoided, reframes and nurturing supports are easy, abundant, & available… It’s a deeper, more thorough journey where the person you’ve hired walks their own walk, and has arrived on the other side of some of their worst nightmares, with peace. Let’s be clear on who you are investing in here… You’re not investing in the professional…(in this case, me). In coaching or any kind of support, the person considering support is not doing so for the benefit or furtherance of the professional. Shoot, I’ve already invested in myself for my journey… with time, money, heart, mistakes, resistance, understanding, eagerness, willingness, curiosity. And I’m still actively investing in all of the ways, for my own self. Why? Because I want more aliveness in my life. And I now know that I get it when I am nurtured and supported. So, for you…You’re investing in your own dear self. Complete with surprises on the way… complete with aliveness and more living in your own life. A little known fact… Even on a notoriously heavy and serious part of a life path, there can be (& usually is) some laughter, some lightness and some momentum… it’s part of the journey, and it can be sprinkled in and experienced early and often. These bits of lightness also allow and encourage us to keep going. Learning to receive during a heart healing from loss journey You can also learn to better receive in all ways, plus learn to love, and look for more, support on this journey. Really want to acknowledge that this can feel especially risky during grief or heartbreak. This is also a completely natural sense… and… feeling risky doesn’t have to mean anything one way or another about your decision. Your readiness to move forward to learn how to release emotional pain and keep all the good stuff is not contingent on feeling 100% absolutely ready. This is also true when we make large investments… sometimes aka commitments… in houses and cars. It feels risky, and we sign. It feels risky, and we move forward with that feeling. One more thing… I’m going to be playing with how I refer to the services I offer… I’m not calling it “Grief Work” anymore. Like I said above, you don’t need another job or role. So let’s begin by playing with this… With me as your coach, reiki practitioner, and intuitive guide, all in one, let’s consider the process more like…. Ahem…. Emotional Swimming Lessons I don’t know that this is the name… but it gives you a better sense of working with me, and of my approach. Imagine what you could do and feel with more support… not more work. (take all the time you need here to really imagine more support in this time and space…. You 100% deserve it and more.) Listen… I have space available for a few private clients right now. I work with only 8 at a time. Complete the initial application and let’s get you swimmin’ toward more aliveness: https://www.wendysloneker.com/grief_recovery_services.html  We’re in the final few days of April, already… and my focus is shifting toward May.
It’s Mental Health Awareness Month and I’ve got a couple of digital events to share with you. Links are here, please register for what sounds fantastic, useful, or supportive. Also, if you have loved ones who could benefit, feel free to forward this whole dang message on to them as well. Okay, here are the 2 events you are wholeheartedly invited to: 1. How to Feel a Feeling Training: Let’s Go Again! May 4th at 4pm Pacific on Zoom A recording was totally promised on the last training… AND I forgot to hit “record” - dangit!!! So, let’s go again! BTW, in the April training we practiced a few specific feelings… We will be practicing totally different ones in May… so if you were there in April, there will be new material to work with. Come on in again! Register today. It’s free, on Zoom, and it’ll be another way to increase/improve emotional intelligence too. 2. Announcing the Shadow Side Leadership Summit: Embrace Your Shadow to Strengthen Your Light This is a totally digital event. And free. Taking place May 19-21 from Noon -3pm Pacific each day. This is a brand new event that I get to participate in with several stunning coaches in our world! It’s truly exciting and I hope you’ll give yourself a moment or two to scan the offerings and topics and see if any appeal to you. I’ll be teaching a new workshop… It's not new material to me, but it’s a new presentation. Usually I reserve this for 1x1 clients, but I’ve made it available to learn in a workshop, so that’s what we’ll be doing in this Summit. What is it? Oh, Friends… I’m so glad you asked… It’s the simple & straightforward art of Resentment Melting If you are someone who experiences resentment as an almost poisonous, seething, feeling, you’re not alone. I’ve personally spent a lot of time in resentment… I did learn a lot in 12-step rooms about resentment, but this is different… I still needed different and more care around this habitual, energy-stealing feeling. I found myself in resentment sometimes because I wanted to, but mostly because I didn’t realize I was doing it or didn’t know how to get out of it. I needed something different, and more support… so I created a new tool/protocol. Hence, Resentment Melting. I’d love to have you in the Summit to learn this for your whole dear self. While this Summit is aimed to serve business owners, there’s lots to choose from that can be helpful, useful, and applicable to those employed, retired, or just looking to learn more about shadow work or personal development. Register for the whole event today. What else? I do still have space in my schedule for 1x1 Clients. I work with eight (8) 1x1 clients at a time and there is plenty of room, time, and care for you to enjoy premium, professional support through loss. Schedule a Connection Call and let’s talk about it.  Every surrender is different.
And each one, whether or not we consciously signed up for it, takes us somewhere different. There is hope for where we want to go. And no guarantee. This is what feels like risk. I don't 100% know who I will be. This uncertainty can feel threatening to the part of my human brain that counts familiarity as "safety" or "security". Personally, in a new surrender or change, I get into indignation when I don't know where I'm at or get scared in the process... Or when it feels like I'm in the Groundhog's Day movie (every day the effing saaaaame, 'cept no donuts)... That's where I'm at right now. And.... Ow. Me and other surrenders - or making rooms, or changes - go back a bit. But each one is different... Credits don't transfer, folks. I've never been here before. So a new surrender has been coming on... since at least November of last year or earlier... this doesn't necessarily need to be a 12-step surrender... this one right now isn't, but it is a choice for change... Because I want to experience something different. SomeONE different... Specifically, me. New experiences or results require new actions. Part of what's required is that I make room... for that new form, version, whoever... of me. Know how I know it's working? Indignation is here. Annoyance is here. Fear? Yep, it's here. Me looking back on what I've been up to in my personal journey since last year and finding doubt, uncertainty, fear... And irritation that more results haven't fallen in my lap? Yep, this is right on time. My brain offering thoughts of: -- Maybe this is too hard for you -- Pretty sure you can't do it -- Let's get a minimum wage job -- You've been doing it wrong, let's give up now And me, in my relationship with tenacity (sometimes known as stubbornness)... and also having the benefits and evidence on the other side of a few other surrenders... I, with my fear in my throat, share quietly with my own dear self... that we aren't going that way. We aren't going back. Evolution of every kind requires expansion... it's not found in contraction, or going back... even though that seems familiar and comfortable... it's still not what we/I want. What I want to experience is not "back there". Nope. We aren't giving up. The self-doubts and fear-based "offers"...? Those used to be reasons to quit, fall back, pivot in a totally new direction, or even seek a new career. But nothing's actually wrong... I'm in a place where there's some fear... and loss... these are actually working FOR me. These feelings are here for me. Not necessarily to challenge me... but to show me where my work is. It's annoying. It's painful. It's real. For me. In this moment. I'll take the real. Nothing is wrong with annoying or painful... Nothing's actually *happened* other than I'm feeling fear. So, what do I DO with it? I bring it to my own supports that are in place. Supports I've invested time, money, and heart with. My supports include real people (individuals and groups), and Divine Nature... and we work with thoughts and feelings as evidence of progress. Chances are good that some more rest is a good idea. This annoyance, pain, irritation, indignation, and fear...? These are right on time. And, also irritatingly, they turn out to be some of my most profitable, most beneficial feelings in the long run... These feelings, painful and discombobulating as they are, are now reasons for me to keep going… and evidence that I’m going in the right direction… Not reasons to quit. I work with people who aren't going back and who want new support in moving forward. Connect with me and lock in your own transformation.  The short story here is that we have a habit of bypassing the heart and nervous system in order to alleviate the pressure from the mind shouting to, “fix it now”, or “hurry”. Based in fear.
We do this by making reactive, slapdash decisions to “do something…anything” immediately. Listen. This is not something to judge. This is something to NOTICE. Noticing is enough. Got it? Now. Feeling the feeling that is under the circumstance is a way to give yourself new understanding, more presence, more love, more compassion, and way more vitality in order to determine the next action… based in love. Feeling the feeling will actually illuminate the next & best right thing to do, try, attempt. AND it will help release emotional pain or energy that is ready to go. You have not been taught this. YET. Not many people in the world operate this way. This is a new level of self-support and care. This may be incredibly foreign and unfamiliar… and it may be YOUR NEXT RIGHT THING to try, see, notice, and develop. Short term, desperate attempts to deny feelings don’t work long term. It’s a battle you’ll fight again and again… and it’s exhausting. There’s a better, gentler, more-effective way. And it’s time you learned. Yep. How to feel a feeling. I’m teaching it later this month I have a How to Feel a Feeling Training Event coming up on Thursday, April 20, 2023… 10am Pacific - for an hour. You are definitely invited… Sign Up Now. It’ll be awesome! Another option to learn how to feel a feeling is available in my Going Inside program. If you’d rather learn now, and not wait for the free training on the 20th, hop into the hub of my Group Coaching Program: GoingInside.Me Love to have you join me there.  I’ve been talking with a few people recently about Anticipatory Grief… pets who are aging, loved ones who have received a terminal diagnosis, estranged family who are dealing with chronic conditions and making requests of all kinds… The gamut. It’s here.
Because life continues to happen… both beginnings and endings. There’s nothing wrong with life doing what life does. We can feel pain and sadness when we identify that losses are happening now. In the case of all of the above instances the following gets to be identified:
It’s a part in our natural human brains that is about the size of a peanut (referred to after this as The Peanut), and this part wants to: Seek pleasure Avoid pain Keep things familiar and the same This isn’t always possible in life. Not by a long shot. We are actually here to explore and navigate changes of many kinds. And Anticipatory Grief, when we notice changes, is part of the package in a full, well-lived, well-loved life. It can totally sting, be scary, get tender, feel sad or bittersweet, and feelings/emotions bloom in our hearts and bodies. I’ll be speaking more about this in the coming weeks, but for now, I want to normalize the experience of Anticipatory Grief. It’s totally a thing. It’s also not wrong to notice small changes, feel afraid of the uncertain next, and maybe even dread it a little bit. It’s also okay to be in the moment that you have, with all that is the way it is, at this moment. It’s excellent to remind yourself to be here right now… This moment is still where your life currently IS, where possibility is, and where you can really make your biggest impact in your own dear life. Right here. Right now. This is 100% where your life is happening. And that is a certain thing. |