With some life events, some traumas, some tragedies… and even some really great stuff, rumination can rob us humans of our presence.
Presence in our days and lives, right now.
And before I go any further into this post, I’m here to say, “this is me too… this is still me too… and it’s not ‘wrong’ or ‘a failure.’”
Rumination suggests a strong, well-grooved neural pathway in a human mind.
Nothing more. The wiring in our human brains won’t change, but the plasticity, the ability to strengthen other, more pleasant, neural pathways can.
In the grief and loss work I do with clients, there’s a trio of types of activities that is both offered and suggested. In order to walk a balanced grief journey, I invite you to consider:
Nope, not in perfect balance.
When I shared about trio of activities above, your healthy human brain may have already mandated (dictated? Demanded?... or was that just me and mine?) that there be 3 perfectly equal parts in order to share out the activities and “do them perfectly.”
This is not a thing.
Doing what is best or most needed next, is the thing. Always.
Complicated won’t give you the results you want.
The feelings of peace, capacity, spaciousness, aliveness? They arrive through the simple. The do-able. Your smart human mind may tell you it’s not enough, it’s too easy… but it hasn’t allowed you to try it yet. Give yourself something else to think about… engage in something small, gentle, and new. Something that uses your senses… and something brand new to you.
BTW, It’s also still my personal practice to catch my own brain making these demands/assumptions in order to manage my own mind and run it… instead of being run, unconsciously by it. This is an improvable skill… it has been for me… it can be for you too… and it’s more fun when we make it a game together.
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