Midsummer and for me it seems like days are both long and short. I personally prefer days that feel spacious, without feeling too long or too short. The baby-bear-of-Goldilocks-and-the-3-bears, if you will. Juuuuuust right. So when I was thinking about time going by fast, or not… it made me wonder whether or not that was a useful question. This is what came up: Long or short, fast or slow, what do you want to DO with it? If you’re not doing what you want with your time, do you like your reasons? Sometimes I do. Frequently, I don’t. So I opt-in for gentle change and steady next steps… even if they are baby steps. They still count. They always count. I really want you to know this… because for a long time (years!... decades?) I didn’t know. Had no idea I could count small progress as success. No idea that every effort could count… and once I knew, it took me awhile to slow my mind - not necessarily my actions - but my mind… so I could then begin to give myself some credit. Thank you for reading… I’d love to connect if you’re interested in more about Thoughts & Feelings Management… & Going Inside. Friend! Let’s Prep for Fall Fun 🙂 Planting Seeds here for Harvest Season! Sure, bring your PSL! (pumpkin spice latte) We will be connecting and honoring the change of season September 22 with a day-ish long retreat via Zoom, yes! If you are local to Eau Claire, WI, you would be most welcome to join in person and live with Breakthrough Business Coach, Sarah Stokes, of The Juicy Good Life. Let this reminder and invitation help your (near) future self take a little time to mark the changes from the summer and help you to restore and reset as we move into the next season. Fall, 2023. HeckYEAH! Save the Date! September 22 Have you heard of the concept of green-light fear vs red-light fear? I heard this a couple of weeks ago from my coach, Serena Hicks. And the basics are: Green-light fear is a sensation in your body and mind that spark excitement, trepidation, apprehension, and perhaps even some sweat and butterflies. Green-light fear can come up when we humans are facing change, considering conscious navigation of loss/es, obstacles, growth, and/or challenges… even dreams. This form of fear can feel like a kind of death… even a form of ego death… or, a type of surrender to make room for new good, and new life. Even though it may feel like a kind of death, there’s still lots and loads of life to be lived through it. Red-light fear? Well, that’s where we’re talking about actual danger. Risk and potential or real mortal peril. Full stop. The end. I’m not here to bad-mouth red-light fear. Not at all. Red-light fear is a real and useful tool when lives are at stake. Personal development is not part of red-light fear for me or for my clients. Normalizing Green-Light Fear AND… when it comes to growth, emergence, and a little bit of new life… I’m always talking about green-light fear. It’s not wrong that you’ve got sensations in your body… those are part of our sense of aliveness. Needed. Useful. Maybe not always comfortable, but useful signals for you to catch and interpret. It’s not even “wrong” if you’ve got ideas and dreams that just won’t go away, even though there’s apprehension about taking next steps…. Even if you’ve talked yourself out of taking your ideas and dreams seriously… if those notions and desires are still there, it’s not too late. Green-light fear is ultimately about living and aliveness. Going Inside your own dear self to discover more, learn and explore… and to, yes, bring in new life and new understanding. Red-light fear is about discernment of safety, and your actual life-or-death in high-stakes moments. These are actually more on the rare–side than they were decades ago. Connect with me about getting started in the Going Inside membership. Your space for semi-private self-development where you are connected and protected …as you learn to give yourself your own green lights. PS: Friend! Let’s Prep for Fall Fun 🙂 Planting Seeds here for Harvest Season! Remember when I told you about the Solstice Shift event I co-created with Breakthrough Business Coach, Sarah Stokes? IT WAS SO FUN, and SO GOOD… That we decided to offer another - likely quarterly - event Autumnal Evolution… and you, dear friend, are 100% INvited. Save the Date! September 22 It's not always easy to determine the next step, or the next right thing. Especially if your self-talk (or inner voice) is clamoring… “It’s not enough” “You’re not enough” “Don’t bother, it won’t be right” Or… “Forget it, it’ll be useless” All futile. All hopeless. Not motivating, inspiring… and definitely not leading to openness or the kind of momentum that feels fun. No. That “momentum” feels like a spiraling drain down the cosmic toilet. WHOA. Here’s the thing… that thinking is largely about “getting done”... arriving at the destination and being finished with whatever is in front of you…
There are options. And… this is new. Your brain may not like it, love it, or accept the suggested course corrections below… So, I’ll ask that you register how your brain responds … AND THEN seek out how other parts of your body feel… the gut, your heart, your solar plexus… and then consider how you would like to (and will choose to) proceed. There’s more wisdom in and around you to consider… it doesn’t ALL have to come from a pushy and demanding inner voice. Suggested course correction, with practice thoughts:
Training the inner voice is a lot like training a brand new puppy. There’s resistance and immaturity and there are even some tantrums. This is reasonable. And… there is still learning to be … learned. Options! Variations! New approaches! This is exciting… and challenging… and partof life’s work… If we want to feel better, more peaceful, and more alive, anyway. And… it’s really, really challenging to train an inner voice to opt for care, gentleness, and compassion all alone. I failed many times trying to do it alone, and believing my crushing first thoughts… which always sounded like yelling, and always pointed to my insecurities, weaknesses, and fears. I got support and education and practice. I still get support and education and practice. I share it now too. Join me in the Going Inside portal and let’s give that brand new puppy - your inner voice - some structure and some better behaviors and choices. Training the inner voice is exactly what happens in my hybrid group-program Going Inside. Friend! Let’s Prep for Fall Fun 🙂 Planting Seeds here for Harvest Season! Save the Date! September 22 Hellooooo and I hope it was a delightful Pride Weekend (it was just this past weekend here in Seattle). Summer Support is still available, y’all… only because life continues to happen… 100% of the time. Yup, trips to the beach, day trips or long weekends, concerts, hikes, and BBQs... so fun! And.. so much extra work too… different groceries, packing, unpacking, communications with all sorts, pet care arrangements, work & managing days off… tons of additional details. SO MUCH (more) ACTIVITY happens right about soon… What else? Moves and changes also happen over summertimes. People sometimes pass and die in the summer... Relationships change or break… diagnoses are sometimes discovered over summers.... Feelings emerge as you notice kids are growing up. Big time. There is value and tenderness in swimming parties, new shoes, and around the campfires… seeing your kids in the summer’s glow. ALL of the emotions around previous summertime pains, changes, and flows may come forward to be acknowledged and honored. The body remembers... and yes, it does keep the score as well... This is real life and living... And it's never moved so fast before. It’s time for more support… not less If you think you don’t have time… in fact, if you’re convinced there’s no possible way to engage in more support for yourself… well, you may in fact need it more than most. With so much happening so quickly, I do encourage the idea that more support is actually NEEDED. –and I know this is exactly true for me too– Now is the exact time to act and opt-in for more of your own well being... to include your own dear self... and to receive that loving support too. HeckYEAH! SO you can ... 🥳Really BE at those BBQs to celebrate & relax… without missing a thing 😍 Absolutely BE more present with family members... no matter what is happening, or not happening 🥳Feel connected more easily and genuinely in any setting you choose to show up in… enjoy being pre-disposed to having a good time for yourself and with others 😎 Clearly and decidedly opt-out of anything you want with love and boundaries that honor and respect your own wishes 🤯Feel seen and heard by a professional coach as you feel, decide, and choose your own next right steps without having to take care of anyone else's feelings or ideas 🪨 Discover what it's like to BE and FEEL supported and cared for on days like Pride, and 4th of July, and also prep for the rest of the holidays of the year (if you desire) Did you know? Specific care, attention, and time receiving coaching support offloads challenging emotions, circumstances, and decisions with greater ease and efficiency so you actually GET MORE QUALITY SUMMER in your summer months. A little time each week will go a long way, friends. Zoom or phone so connecting is a breeze. With more support, you actually get more time for YOU to spend and enjoy and relax... in these next months and beyond. Summer Dreams Take a sec and consider the rest of your summer … What would you' love to experience?... Then, connect with me to make it happen. Setting yourself free is a worthy bucket list experience… I’d love to work with you on this. Complete the private coaching application … filling this out will start the transformation-ball rolling and feelings of support will actually start flowing… Fill it out now and see for yourself. I'm ready. I got you. Let's GO! Setting yourself free is a worthy bucket list item. Worthy, as in… YOU are worthy… of this and more. Period. Emergence can be experienced by any person moving through a transition, a challenge, a season, or into a new sense of self… some would call this a new sense of identity. Emergence did not feel fabulous when I came out. But it was necessary… and it was something I had to pay attention to. Meaning, I couldn’t stuff it, deny it, avoid it, or resist it. Was it inconvenient? For sure. And painful. And scary. And worth it. I felt so called (and called out) by Life… that I had to come out as a lesbian. This was true for me… I came out when I was 32. There have been mannnnny many stories of Emergence in my life. This is one. And it’s valuable. And it’s mine. If you’re moving through a tough transition… it’s okay if it doesn’t look like a glow up right now. This is a moment… and you deserve all of the love, care, and support that you want and need to get through to Emergence. It’s a beautiful thing…. Your entire path and your whole self are beautiful and valuable. I appreciate you and all of the courage it takes to continue moving forward, dear reader. Life is not easy. But wow, what a ride! Here’s to a delightful Pride Weekend… for any and all who celebrate (hug!) On going all in on your own dear self The feedback I get in my work is that people tend to feel better when they are around me… and that my coaching works. If you’d like to talk about private coaching with me, here’s how to get started… and I wholeheartedly invite you! Please complete a pre-consult application. Just filling it out will also change your life...it is powerful… #justsayin I'm ready... I got you... Let's GO! In the United States, where I live, Father’s Day is coming up this weekend. Whether your father, or father figure is a loved one, or a less-than-loved-one, this relationship may impact other relationships. The dynamic may actually influence many other relationships… personal, romantic, business, or with other elders in your life. Take a second and consider how that could be true for you. It makes sense When it comes to parental figures, (be they biological, adoptive, guardian, foster or otherwise) these are often some of the oldest relationships we have on the planet this time around. There are beliefs, ideas, and traditions that may have been part of your growing up may be serving you really well… or not. And some of what’s been taught to you may now be part of your unconscious mind. This was true for me around how I was taught to save money, and what to save it for, based on how my dad did it. What I didn’t take into account was this: We were never building the same things. And. We were never saving for the same things. I felt that I had to do it the same way he did it, based on how I was brought up, what he lovingly suggested, which was all based on his own experience… in his career, and long retirement. My work and career as a business owner, service provider, entrepreneur is radically different from anything he knows about work. The way money is stewarded and needed as an entrepreneur is also different from what my dad knows of work. His care and attention about dollars and retirement are completely about him and his experience… and rightly so. But I, with my creativity and independence and eagerness to do my own thing? It was never going to look like, behave like, or appear similar in most ways to what my dad has built or what he knows. With appreciation, when I understood this and saw it more plainly for my own self, I got to experience some relief from the pressure I applied to myself -for decades- since our paths, our affluence levels, and our results were very different… they were always going to be different… what changed was, I got to take myself off the hook for that simply being the case. I stopped making myself wrong for what I was creating… as though is was less valuable or incorrect, since it didn’t follow what he demonstrated or offered guidance toward. Valuing my own path, and how it looks and needs to work for me is actually more comfortable for me… it’s got it’s own learning curves, for sure… but I’ve got less judgement taking up my energy and this makes all the difference for me… and also for us. I can appreciate my dad’s path and what he’s created and how he knew how to care for all of us in my family of origin (FOO)... His experience is about him… and I can see that and appreciate him more easily and genuinely when I also give my own path the value and respect it deserves. It’s a process. And it’s totally possible. PS - Have you registered for the Solstice Shift Event? LOVE to have you join us for our first seasonal shift event… it’s an honoring and a reset… closing out one season, and opening up to the next… in flow. Register Now… The Virtual Solstice Shift Event happens on June 21 and there’s room for you!... https://the-juicy-good-life.mykajabi.com/solstice-shift-live-event Consider it a seasonal reset and join us in closing out the Spring Season and Opening Up to a Deeper Summer for yourself… even if you feel like you didn’t get a Spring season… this is about honoring and about the flow of the seasons… so you don’t miss any of the seasons in your own life this year. C’mon, c’mon…. Register Now! https://the-juicy-good-life.mykajabi.com/solstice-shift-live-event
It’s time for a summer shed… not the kind in the backyard or creepy forest… no…
Sweet release is indeed imminent … It’s time to shed… as in… a verb. It’s an excellent time to shed… Old painful feelings, challenging emotions, seething judgements, wracking worries... let's take the summer and move 'em on out... of your body and mind. Emergence as a process from these old feelings, old emo baggage? You haven't learned it YET. Emergence as a feeling... being on the other side and having your footing, your whole and steady heart, and some energy? This is a form of freedom. Begin - for yourself - this summer... June is less than 2 weeks away... OF COURSE you deserve this care & attention. YES.? I've got space for 2 people in my summer schedule for 1x1 private coaching for June, July & August... we meet weekly, virtually... and dedicated time is spent on, with, and for YOU. Only you. You don't have to take care of annnnnybody else in our time. NOPE. You get listened to, heard, seen, and supported. Just your dear self. And you've been wanting and needing this attention and care. And you deserve it. Especially now. Especially you. Imminent sweet release begins when you complete the private coaching application... this alone will begin your shift into more freedom and Emergence: Start your own summer release right now: Application is on this page… let’s GO! PS - Have you registered for the Solstice Shift Event? LOVE to have you join us for our first seasonal shift event… it’s an honoring and a reset… closing out one season, and opening up to the next… in flow. Register Now… Virtual Event happens on June 21 and there’s room for you! Another Event for you? YESSSSS… we’re talking Summer Solstice! Collaboration & co-creation bear the gifts of energy, momentum, & ideation! I met my co-creator of this Solstice Shift event just almost a year ago… she is a phenomenal woman, business coach, and has THE HUGEST HEART… her name is Sarah Stokes. And we knew we wanted to do something special together… we had no idea HOW special… until now. What’s the plan? On the day of Summer Solstice… we meet. Either: IRL… if you’re local to Wisconsin & Sarah, or Virtually… on Zoom. Consider it a kind of Seasonal Reset, if you will… Included will be: A Grief Shifting Session with me… it TOTALLY WORKS VIRTUALLY… it’s a Reiki Energy shift designed expressly for movement of stuck feelings whether it’s grief, loss, heartbreak, resentment, bitterness, frustration, annoyance, fury… or some other unpleasant feelings. Create & Live From Your Compassion Plan Session with Sarah… whaaaat?!?!? Yes, especially for women business owners & entrepreneurs… This is a very special, incredibly powerful offer from Sarah and I cannot wait for you to benefit from her incredible gifts and wisdom. A Full-On Sound Bath Experience with Rachelle: Sound baths work beautifully on Zoom, btw… please do plan and have headphones for best results & enjoyment. Rachelle is located in Wisconsin and is an integral part of Sarah’s service lineups. You need to know right here, right now… YOU are invited and wanted inside of this group & hybrid experience. Save the date, friends… details are forthcomin’ with so much love. For Now: Save June 21 for yourself and us… Most of the business day… YES. You deserve this time and space to reset with phenomenal energy, other women on the day a season changes. It’s so beautiful. You’ve got plans for Summer Solstice, my friend! Registration is now open! https://the-juicy-good-life.mykajabi.com/solstice-shift-live-event PS: Be on the lookout for more Season-Changing Quarterly Events like this one too!! *Announciiiiiing!* The Emergence Podcast Project is being created as we speak! … or, uh… as you read! The new podcast will be dropping on June 5… just a couple of short weeks away! Stay tuned here or on FB for details & links. I’m thrilled to be creating this for us! On to our regular visit for this week: If kids get to go to summer camps or activities, what do you get to do? Yes, they get to have fun... Absolutely. What - besides taking care of them - do YOU get? Relief that they are taken care of... yes. Quieter house & schedule... maybe. AND What Else? 🤿 This is your summer too. I think you deserve intentional time to be seen, heard, cared for, and coached this WHOLE summer. Some Summer Coaching activities for us could include: 🧳 Offload, unpack, debrief, release, vent, share about what you've been navigating... 🔥 Feel seen, heard, and safe without ... having to take care of anyone else or worry about what anyone else will think, say, or do being interrupted when you're sharing something important 🙋♀️ Connecting, clarifying, regrouping, grounding, protecting, and focusing ⚫ Emerging from a shadow season, or overwhelm and into freedom... where you have more time, more emotional availability, and more presence in your own life. Your own imminent summer could totally blow your own mind and heart wide open into being more alive... You could be experiencing more aliveness... Immediately. 2 spots this summer... all summer... June, July, & August is our time --usually I work in 1 year containers -- So this is SPECIAL. Coaching begins... and your summer transformation begins when you complete a private coaching application… on this page. I'm ready for you. I got you. We create the stories of our lives WITH the living that we are doing today. And, gentle reminder, we're all - each one of us - going to BECOME stories to someone else as well. Get gently unstuck and move forward in your own dear life with your Emergence Coach… ME ! We'll shift your emotional coal into gold* with a steady, supportive, specific process. MORE here... (& PS there's always more) *I know, per science, that diamonds come from coal… But in the alchemy I practice, we don’t use pressure… so we get gold. |
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