The Next Tiny Thing is the Right Thing

It's not always easy to determine the next step, or the next right thing. 
Especially if your self-talk (or inner voice) is clamoring…
“It’s not enough”
“You’re not enough”
“Don’t bother, it won’t be right”
Or…
“Forget it, it’ll be useless”
All futile. All hopeless. 

Not motivating, inspiring… and definitely not leading to openness or the kind of momentum that feels fun.

No. That “momentum” feels like a spiraling drain down the cosmic toilet. 
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WHOA.


Here’s the thing… that thinking is largely about “getting done”... arriving at the destination and being finished with whatever is in front of you… 

• Whether it’s tax or debt payments
• Grieving or processing a loss or change
• Making progress on a project, campaign, or desire

There are options. 
And… this is new. Your brain may not like it, love it, or accept the suggested course corrections below… So, I’ll ask that you register how your brain responds …

AND THEN seek out how other parts of your body feel… the gut, your heart, your solar plexus… and then consider how you would like to (and will choose to) proceed.

There’s more wisdom in and around you to consider… it doesn’t ALL have to come from a pushy and demanding inner voice.


Suggested course correction, with practice thoughts:

• It’s not a problem that I am making progress and not yet done, or complete… this next miniscule action will take me in the desired direction… toward the solution (or resolution, or just to the next step).
• More pressure isn’t helping me. More encouragement will get me further today. Badgering, bullying, and pushing doesn’t feel good… it spins me tighter and into more anxiousness, stress, and tightness in my body.
• MAYBE I’ll be ready for the next small step after this one. A little progress generates momentum that feels good for me, mentally, emotionally, and even physically. 
• This next step is the right step… and it will lead to the next right step… Progress - sustaining progress - is being made when I do what I can, encourage myself, support myself, from the inside.

Training the inner voice is a lot like training a brand new puppy.
There’s resistance and immaturity and there are even some tantrums. This is reasonable. And… there is still learning to be … learned. 

Options! Variations! New approaches!

This is exciting… and challenging… and partof life’s work…

If we want to feel better, more peaceful, and more alive, anyway.

And… it’s really, really challenging to train an inner voice to opt for care, gentleness, and compassion all alone. I failed many times trying to do it alone, and believing my crushing first thoughts… which always sounded like yelling, and always pointed to my insecurities, weaknesses, and fears. I got support and education and practice. I still get support and education and practice.

I share it now too. Join me in the Going Inside portal and let’s give that brand new puppy - your inner voice -  some structure and some better behaviors and choices. 

Training the inner voice is exactly what happens in my hybrid group-program Going Inside. 

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