When a big feeling comes on, grief or something else, it can take a little bit of time for some of us (me included) to tune in and know what it even IS that we’re feeling.
It’s another process entirely to be able to explain or articulate it.
Blow it out
I’d like to offer a big ol’ exhale on the notion that it’s somehow urgent to know exactly how you feel and be able to communicate your feelings at any given moment. Not everyone does. Even & especially during painful seasons.
Getting and staying quiet and allowing for time, space, and feelings in that calm is a J.O.B…. and I’d also offer it is an act of radical self care.
They don’t know
Well-meaning people may be interested and may ask about how you’re doing today, or this week. And, as kind-hearted as they are intending, inquiries can feel badger-y and insistent, and then tiresome.
I’m here to share that they don’t know, and can’t possibly know what you’re going through. Some may be able to better empathize than others.
You don’t always have to know.
And you don’t always have to share either.
I definitely don’t.
If you don’t have the words, or you don’t know how you feel in one specific moment… this is 100% natural and human. It could be that you’re trying to know or understand… or wanting to… is enough work in itself.
It’s not stupid, or defective, or anything negative. This “feelings stuff” isn’t encouraged, taught, or supported… so it’s not only possible, but it’s damn near probable that there will be some moments, especially when things are tough, when you’re just not gonna have the words.
A gentle option
Being with yourself to soothe, comfort, nurture, and normalize this temporary condition is a path that is open to you.
After all, isn't it already hard enough?
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