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A scared brain is like a startled horse… here’s what you can do.

2/15/2023

 
Our healthy, human brains get scared when change and transformation are real possibilities. If you’ve got a sense that you’d like to explore heart healing to relieve pressure, sadness, old hurts, and resentments, a voice inside your mind may get loud. 
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Familiar tactics of a scared brain can include: chiding, scolding, judging, cajoling, bullying. It may tell you that you’re fine and you don’t need to, or distract you with food, drink, video games, etc… Is this familiar at all? 
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This is a part of your mind that is constantly scanning for threats… and change of any kind. Even healing change can feel dangerous to that part of our human minds. This is the wiring… this is the package we have to work with. And…

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A scared brain is like a startled horse
Let’s imagine you’ve got a horse in a halter, and you have the lead rope in your hand... when your horse gets  scared or startled, it may rear, or resist (shy)… this is a-okay. This is a natural response.
If you were leading a horse and he got startled, what would you do?  You’d give it some space to rear and have his energetic response/release… then you’d gently lead him to your destination. A stall, a trailer, the meadow, an arena, wherever.​
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Same with your brain’s response
You can give your scared, startled brain  a little honor and space to release that energy and register its complaint with some acknowledgement… then you can make some progress toward your destination… whether it’s chasing a new interest, beginning a project, finishing a relationship, or getting further along in processing more emotions.
Beyond “We Can Do Hard Things.”
The more you understand your instrument… your body, mind, heart, and energy… the more you can work with yourself… not against yourself. Burning up energy, flopping back and forth in your decisions, or chasing thought loops round and round without making the progress you really want to. You definitely do… you also have a human brain that can startle easily.

The key is gentleness and working with your dear self. Little by little… momentum comes quick, and it builds. This can be true for you. 100%

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