Episode 54: Shifting Our Own Painful Opinions, Even When We're "Right"
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Capacity: When we're in times of change and loss, whatever forms those take in your life, our emotions may feel like they're just too much.
You have more capacity than you think. Yes, it's uncomfortable. But learning to jettison what doesn't help you, make space for the things that do (though they may be painful), and learn from the pain you feel — this is healthy and (sorry) possibly pretty uncomfortable. Are you feeling stuck? Stuck can feel, oddly, "safe." It is familiar. We know how to handle this space we've been stuck in. And there's nothing wrong with hanging out here for a while. But there are tools and skills that can help you radically change the results you're getting. |
Wendy shares on tips on how to get yourself unstuck when you feel you have met your capacity.
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If you're ready for next steps, to build toward what you're really wanting in life, listen to the episode, then contact host Grief Coach Wendy Sloneker for a complimentary consultation. You'll find her at her website, wendysloneker.com.
If you're ready for next steps, to build toward what you're really wanting in life, listen to the episode, then contact host Grief Coach Wendy Sloneker for a complimentary consultation. You'll find her at her website, wendysloneker.com.
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Full Episode Transcript
Wendy Sloneker
You are listening to the Heart Healing from Loss Podcast with Wendy Sloneker. This is episode 54.
Hi, I'd love to check in it's early days in 2023. At the time of this recording, and I want to talk a little bit about capacity, and how when we're going through periods of immense change or painful change or loss, whether a person has a loved one or less than loved one has died. You may be going through divorce, estrangement, career change, career choice, identity change, it could be a loss of feeling of security, you may be experiencing loss of trust, lots of things can go down in just a plain old day.
So if this feels relevant, I want to invite you, and I assure you that, Okay, keep listening, you're invited, and you're in the right place. We go through a lot just as humans. So I'm here to normalize the immense volume that we can go through just in terms of logistics, day to day, routines, we would like to incorporate or integrate, and also maybe some behaviors or patterns that we may or may not be aware of that it might be getting ready to let go of all this can be summed up into one word. You're ready.
Discomfort. Discomfort, yeah, uncomfortable. This, I want to I want to just normalize this to this is natural, and, and it's okay. How we navigate with it, is where skill building comes in, and new concepts. So I want to lay a couple down on you in a gentle and professional manner, right here right now. And that has to do with our own painful emotions. Now, if you've listened to the podcast for a little while, or even just a few episodes, thank you, number one. And then also you this some of my content may sound a little bit duplicative or repetitive. And the reason that is is like, one to normalize and to, it's also important to just have that reassurance because the the things that go on in our brain, the thoughts, the editorial, the comments, the judgments. Those are not always in an effort to normalize something neutral or positive. That is all that can be to normalize, painful or uncomfortable.
So let me give you a case in point. Let's say someone named Tammy, for fictional purposes only. Tammy is like having a lot of feelings of discomfort and maybe some judgment around how she thinks things should be going in a certain area of her life, let's say a relationship. Okay. So Tammy may be yearning for hoping for wanting, desiring a type of relationship where she can feel safe and close and intimate and supported and loved. And what is not happening in her outside world is she can't see it. She's getting evidence because she's also looking for evidence that talks about how she doesn't have what it is that she desires.
And this is the thing this is this is a healthy brain, honestly. But it's also miserable, healthy, but miserable. This is an option. Healthy and motivated, is another option. So a couple of things that could be done. And let me before I go on to a couple of things that could be done, let me assure you, Tammy's not doing anything wrong. This is not wrong. This is just one path that is optional. That is getting her result that maybe doesn't feel great. Of course, maybe she wants to stay there because it's safer than going out and making changes to getting what she wants.
So participating in our own painful opinions is something that is important to explore. If you're looking for less pain, more desired results, we often can be a part of our own problem just because we're scared. And just because our brain offers ideas and thoughts that are scary and prompt us to stay where it is, we are nice and stuck. miserable. Yes, but familiar. This is common. This is common. So I want to offer and remind that you have options. You may have thoughts going on in your head, if this is at all relevant or resonant to you about Tammy, like you're not doing anything wrong either.
This is a particular way of the brain is pattern and prompted to operate. And so the results that you're getting are not your desired results. That's all, you can make an ultimately New choice. And here's where the skill thing comes in.
When you practice something a little bit different, you can make a radically different result. Will it feel that way? Immediately? No, it will not. And a little bit of practice, and small doable steps, ones that you can repeat and continue on to doing is where you build little by little. So often, we tell ourselves, we want something because we want to feel better on the inside. But when we're looking for, you know, evidence or relationships that prove we don't have what we want, we call this, but it's reality. And at the moment, that may be 100% True.
So this is also I want to offer that this is not about getting all shiny and toxic positivity and coming up with stuff that your brain just won't believe. What we can say is this is not what I want in this moment. I wonder what I can do or what I can focus on. Because when we focus on something that can be counted as doing Yes, it can brain? Yes, it can. This is something that I go back and forth in my own brain about if I'm just examining, like my thoughts, is that really doing anything? It actually is, and it gets to count because it's different.
So in terms of changing our own internal dialogue and our own painful emotions, this is where I hey, what can I focus on? Oh, wow, I'm, I'm doing that thing. So self awareness is when you say to yourself, oh my gosh, I think I'm doing that thing. Did I just catch myself doing that thing? Where I'm looking for evidence of how my life is not what I want it to be? I did oh my gosh, this gets to be a win. Oh, yes, it does. And it may like this is not something to weaponize self awareness is about catching yourself so you can make a new choice.
This is an opportunity. So asking, like giving your brain Imagine your brain. Imagine your brain is a little bit like a border collie puppy, who has a lot, a lot, a lot of energy. I have somebody in my life who has a border collie puppy. And Baxter needs a job is what Baxter needs because he has ideas about what should be happening. And they are not really at all what his humans think should be happening. So he's doing lots of chasing and nipping and biting and he's making progress and he gets celebrated and praised when he does something different.
So, when it comes to imagining your brain as being a little bit like a border collie puppy, who gets to be trained and guided in a gentle way that has lots of praise and lots of celebration and encourages you know you and your whole self to make these different choices. This is what we need.
Sometimes your brain needs a job needs something specific to look for. So if it's going to be gathering evidence, can it can you ask it to gather evidence for what is right about right here right now. What is okay? About right here right now, even if you don't have the thing that you absolutely want and desire, that may be impatience, and that may also be creating more pain. Yeah, okay. impatience. There it is. And is there another way of being or feeling that you'd prefer to feel? On the way? Like, what's going to help you move out of your own painful opinion about where your life is? And how it is the way that you don't want it? What can you do? See where I put that emphasis? I bring this up again.
And again, it's the best question for a brain that needs a job. What can I do? What can I focus on? What else can I be thinking about? That could use some attention, that could be other relationships, that could be having some fun, that could be taking a rest, that could be catching up on work that, you know, just needs to be done? It could be doing a task that you'd rather not do? Wow, do you know what kind of confidence comes from doing something you don't really want to do but know that you need to do? It's like medicine? Maybe this could be momentum for making conscious choice. Says making conscious choices.
I can't tell you how many times I myself get to, to this day, walk my brain back to do I really want to feel this way. Do I believe this? Is this something that I want to be spending my time on? How do I do that? I asked the question. What else is around me? When was the last time I got up and took a little walk around the block and took stretch? When was the last time I wrote a couple of thoughts down in my book or journal? So I could see what's going on up there in my brain, get it outside of me. And assess it. This is all opportunity. And these are choices and your brain your healthy, natural, nothing is wrong with you brain may say, I don’t want to do it?
Friends, this is the voice of resistance. You absolutely don't have to want to do it. It becomes a question of do you want to stay? Where is this result? What you are going for? Because it does start with you? For you. For me? It starts with me. And so when I feel and hear that voice of resistance inside my head, sometimes I throw myself a little tantrum. I'll give myself a little eye roll. All like, really, again? Yeah, okay. And then we're gonna walk back. Because my brain is a border collie. Little bit, a little bit of a border collie who needs a job, there's a lot of energy, there's something that is being noticed that is unpleasant or uncomfortable.
And I think something else outside of me that should be taken care of by somebody else who's going to swoop in and save me from my own. Whatever, uncomfortable feeling. No one but you. You save yourself from uncomfortable feelings, and uncomfortable thoughts and thoughts that you would like to change. You get to do this on your own or with support.
And you actually don't have to do it at all. That's something else people don't realize that they have the choice. So if you are sort of stewing around in your own painful opinions, I want to offer that those choices are available. You can look at other things in order to get yourself ready for a life you want. And one of those questions could be like I've been over a few of them, but a new one could be I wonder what my next step is, in order to help myself achieve what it is that I want. And if it's a feeling if you want to achieve a feeling of support, and love and security and comfort.
Could I recommend a couple of ideas, these are thoughts, they are free, you are all, like you have every option of trying them on. Right now, I am supporting myself. And I am willing to feel support in this moment. What if you said that, you know, couple times a day, or when you had a moment of self awareness, this would be similar to the praise and cookies and biscuits that Baxter the puppy receives. highly valuable. New inner dialogue gets born this way. I really want to feel loved. And I'm willing to feel love in this moment. This is not where the brain gets to swoop in and say yeah, but you don't have anybody to deal right now.
This is where that's also an opportunity of why because brain is totally going to brain. Okay, and I do want love in my life right now. And I am willing to feel love. What else am I willing to do? In order to meet somebody? Who do I need to be in order to allow myself to meet somebody new in order to engage in love in my life? Does it have to be romantic love in that very moment? Maybe? And if it is, how can you identify it somewhere in your life? Where you have evidence that it's already happened? Or, hey, here's what I'm willing to? Like? How do I be more myself? So my person will recognize me? How do I learn who I am? How do I incorporate? How can I take care of myself when I'm feeling this? Way? Right at this moment? Which could be hurt or alone? How do you be friend yourself? I'm here. How can I best take care and support myself? Even if I don't want to question mark? What can I do? Even if I don't feel like? What am I willing to do even if I don't feel like it?
This is how an inner dialogue begins to shift and change. You recognize exactly what the feeling is that you're feeling. And then you ask yourself what it is that you need in order to progress to give yourself a little bit of a win a little bit of a breath. And allow yourself to make some new choices and not get stuck in a hypnotic loop of you know, your own painful opinion. The Doom real? No, you have options. Oh, I have choices about how I'm feeling? How am I feeling right now. So many of us just don't know.
Next steps. Okay. If this has felt useful or helpful, I dare you and invite you to take it one step further. Consider re listening for the following the phrases and questions that stood out to you as ones that you'd be willing to incorporate into your own inner dialogue.
Hey, when I understand that, when I have a moment of self awareness, which is an opportunity, I'm going to see if I can try to remember and try on these questions or these phrases. And I'm gonna ask that you write them down. You put them on sticky notes, put them in a notebook, flip to the page, send yourself reminders of what those are in your calendar that can also be like you could do a wallpaper as a screensaver with these questions so that you are prompted, put them on the fridge. Put them in where the dog biscuits go just because like brain equals puppy who needs guidance and celebrations for progress.
It's retraining your brain in a gentle way where you're not beating yourself up inside your head I think you deserve something a little more gentle and a little bit more understanding. And this is one way to go about it.
So glad you're here. I do recommend that you write down what stood out to you and that you consider like putting it around in ways that you are going to help yourself. Remember that you want to talk a little bit differently to yourself, about what your choices are. And try to remember where it is you want to go. And how you can help yourself get there. Because you can, you 100% can. It'll take a little practice. And you can. Okay?
One more disclaimer, none of these things like please try to put together phrase after phrase that is gentle and different. This is for like, the advanced. Hey, how can I continue and get a sort of like that inner dialogue where it's a phrase, and then maybe a sentence? And then maybe it's a paragraph? Here's the disclaimer part and no time? Is this a viable or helpful thing for you to go in and bash yourself for? Quote, unquote, not doing it right? This is practice.
This is you making choices and you trying things out to see how they feel. Imagine that each thought was like a different coat. We'll do coats today, because pants off, honestly, like I don't enjoy trying on pants, it's like far too cumbersome. So let's like slip into some coats. Each thought is a coat to try them on. You have nothing to lose, you have infinity number of thought coats to slip into just try on. One may be better suited for one situation than another. Does that mean you throw out the code? No, it means you like let it be somewhere invisible. And not clogging up your whole self and you just get to the one that fits in the moment. Not doing anything wrong. You're just trying something new. This is brave, and it takes something.
So I want to celebrate you right now. For considering doing something new. Getting out of our own painful opinions is work and worthy work. I'm excited for you to reap some benefits and to feel better. Okay, that really is all I have. And I will talk to you again next week. With all my love and heart going out to you. Okay, talk to you next week. Bye.
Hi, this is Wendy, thank you so much for being here and spending time with me for you. Yeah, the whole purpose of walking through grief and loss is to find out how to feel better. Did you know there are tools and skills to be learned about how to do this?
Yeah, for real, and I do it. Let's get on a connection call. It's a 45 minute free call. We'd love to offer to you when you're ready. And we'll just see if we'd be a good fit to work together. If you're ready for a little more support, and not less, and if you're ready to feel a little bit better. And to find out how to learn these tools and skills. I'm ready for you. Reach out through my website. Connect with me directly through [email protected] and we'll set it up again we will all right. Till then take really good care.
You are listening to the Heart Healing from Loss Podcast with Wendy Sloneker. This is episode 54.
Hi, I'd love to check in it's early days in 2023. At the time of this recording, and I want to talk a little bit about capacity, and how when we're going through periods of immense change or painful change or loss, whether a person has a loved one or less than loved one has died. You may be going through divorce, estrangement, career change, career choice, identity change, it could be a loss of feeling of security, you may be experiencing loss of trust, lots of things can go down in just a plain old day.
So if this feels relevant, I want to invite you, and I assure you that, Okay, keep listening, you're invited, and you're in the right place. We go through a lot just as humans. So I'm here to normalize the immense volume that we can go through just in terms of logistics, day to day, routines, we would like to incorporate or integrate, and also maybe some behaviors or patterns that we may or may not be aware of that it might be getting ready to let go of all this can be summed up into one word. You're ready.
Discomfort. Discomfort, yeah, uncomfortable. This, I want to I want to just normalize this to this is natural, and, and it's okay. How we navigate with it, is where skill building comes in, and new concepts. So I want to lay a couple down on you in a gentle and professional manner, right here right now. And that has to do with our own painful emotions. Now, if you've listened to the podcast for a little while, or even just a few episodes, thank you, number one. And then also you this some of my content may sound a little bit duplicative or repetitive. And the reason that is is like, one to normalize and to, it's also important to just have that reassurance because the the things that go on in our brain, the thoughts, the editorial, the comments, the judgments. Those are not always in an effort to normalize something neutral or positive. That is all that can be to normalize, painful or uncomfortable.
So let me give you a case in point. Let's say someone named Tammy, for fictional purposes only. Tammy is like having a lot of feelings of discomfort and maybe some judgment around how she thinks things should be going in a certain area of her life, let's say a relationship. Okay. So Tammy may be yearning for hoping for wanting, desiring a type of relationship where she can feel safe and close and intimate and supported and loved. And what is not happening in her outside world is she can't see it. She's getting evidence because she's also looking for evidence that talks about how she doesn't have what it is that she desires.
And this is the thing this is this is a healthy brain, honestly. But it's also miserable, healthy, but miserable. This is an option. Healthy and motivated, is another option. So a couple of things that could be done. And let me before I go on to a couple of things that could be done, let me assure you, Tammy's not doing anything wrong. This is not wrong. This is just one path that is optional. That is getting her result that maybe doesn't feel great. Of course, maybe she wants to stay there because it's safer than going out and making changes to getting what she wants.
So participating in our own painful opinions is something that is important to explore. If you're looking for less pain, more desired results, we often can be a part of our own problem just because we're scared. And just because our brain offers ideas and thoughts that are scary and prompt us to stay where it is, we are nice and stuck. miserable. Yes, but familiar. This is common. This is common. So I want to offer and remind that you have options. You may have thoughts going on in your head, if this is at all relevant or resonant to you about Tammy, like you're not doing anything wrong either.
This is a particular way of the brain is pattern and prompted to operate. And so the results that you're getting are not your desired results. That's all, you can make an ultimately New choice. And here's where the skill thing comes in.
When you practice something a little bit different, you can make a radically different result. Will it feel that way? Immediately? No, it will not. And a little bit of practice, and small doable steps, ones that you can repeat and continue on to doing is where you build little by little. So often, we tell ourselves, we want something because we want to feel better on the inside. But when we're looking for, you know, evidence or relationships that prove we don't have what we want, we call this, but it's reality. And at the moment, that may be 100% True.
So this is also I want to offer that this is not about getting all shiny and toxic positivity and coming up with stuff that your brain just won't believe. What we can say is this is not what I want in this moment. I wonder what I can do or what I can focus on. Because when we focus on something that can be counted as doing Yes, it can brain? Yes, it can. This is something that I go back and forth in my own brain about if I'm just examining, like my thoughts, is that really doing anything? It actually is, and it gets to count because it's different.
So in terms of changing our own internal dialogue and our own painful emotions, this is where I hey, what can I focus on? Oh, wow, I'm, I'm doing that thing. So self awareness is when you say to yourself, oh my gosh, I think I'm doing that thing. Did I just catch myself doing that thing? Where I'm looking for evidence of how my life is not what I want it to be? I did oh my gosh, this gets to be a win. Oh, yes, it does. And it may like this is not something to weaponize self awareness is about catching yourself so you can make a new choice.
This is an opportunity. So asking, like giving your brain Imagine your brain. Imagine your brain is a little bit like a border collie puppy, who has a lot, a lot, a lot of energy. I have somebody in my life who has a border collie puppy. And Baxter needs a job is what Baxter needs because he has ideas about what should be happening. And they are not really at all what his humans think should be happening. So he's doing lots of chasing and nipping and biting and he's making progress and he gets celebrated and praised when he does something different.
So, when it comes to imagining your brain as being a little bit like a border collie puppy, who gets to be trained and guided in a gentle way that has lots of praise and lots of celebration and encourages you know you and your whole self to make these different choices. This is what we need.
Sometimes your brain needs a job needs something specific to look for. So if it's going to be gathering evidence, can it can you ask it to gather evidence for what is right about right here right now. What is okay? About right here right now, even if you don't have the thing that you absolutely want and desire, that may be impatience, and that may also be creating more pain. Yeah, okay. impatience. There it is. And is there another way of being or feeling that you'd prefer to feel? On the way? Like, what's going to help you move out of your own painful opinion about where your life is? And how it is the way that you don't want it? What can you do? See where I put that emphasis? I bring this up again.
And again, it's the best question for a brain that needs a job. What can I do? What can I focus on? What else can I be thinking about? That could use some attention, that could be other relationships, that could be having some fun, that could be taking a rest, that could be catching up on work that, you know, just needs to be done? It could be doing a task that you'd rather not do? Wow, do you know what kind of confidence comes from doing something you don't really want to do but know that you need to do? It's like medicine? Maybe this could be momentum for making conscious choice. Says making conscious choices.
I can't tell you how many times I myself get to, to this day, walk my brain back to do I really want to feel this way. Do I believe this? Is this something that I want to be spending my time on? How do I do that? I asked the question. What else is around me? When was the last time I got up and took a little walk around the block and took stretch? When was the last time I wrote a couple of thoughts down in my book or journal? So I could see what's going on up there in my brain, get it outside of me. And assess it. This is all opportunity. And these are choices and your brain your healthy, natural, nothing is wrong with you brain may say, I don’t want to do it?
Friends, this is the voice of resistance. You absolutely don't have to want to do it. It becomes a question of do you want to stay? Where is this result? What you are going for? Because it does start with you? For you. For me? It starts with me. And so when I feel and hear that voice of resistance inside my head, sometimes I throw myself a little tantrum. I'll give myself a little eye roll. All like, really, again? Yeah, okay. And then we're gonna walk back. Because my brain is a border collie. Little bit, a little bit of a border collie who needs a job, there's a lot of energy, there's something that is being noticed that is unpleasant or uncomfortable.
And I think something else outside of me that should be taken care of by somebody else who's going to swoop in and save me from my own. Whatever, uncomfortable feeling. No one but you. You save yourself from uncomfortable feelings, and uncomfortable thoughts and thoughts that you would like to change. You get to do this on your own or with support.
And you actually don't have to do it at all. That's something else people don't realize that they have the choice. So if you are sort of stewing around in your own painful opinions, I want to offer that those choices are available. You can look at other things in order to get yourself ready for a life you want. And one of those questions could be like I've been over a few of them, but a new one could be I wonder what my next step is, in order to help myself achieve what it is that I want. And if it's a feeling if you want to achieve a feeling of support, and love and security and comfort.
Could I recommend a couple of ideas, these are thoughts, they are free, you are all, like you have every option of trying them on. Right now, I am supporting myself. And I am willing to feel support in this moment. What if you said that, you know, couple times a day, or when you had a moment of self awareness, this would be similar to the praise and cookies and biscuits that Baxter the puppy receives. highly valuable. New inner dialogue gets born this way. I really want to feel loved. And I'm willing to feel love in this moment. This is not where the brain gets to swoop in and say yeah, but you don't have anybody to deal right now.
This is where that's also an opportunity of why because brain is totally going to brain. Okay, and I do want love in my life right now. And I am willing to feel love. What else am I willing to do? In order to meet somebody? Who do I need to be in order to allow myself to meet somebody new in order to engage in love in my life? Does it have to be romantic love in that very moment? Maybe? And if it is, how can you identify it somewhere in your life? Where you have evidence that it's already happened? Or, hey, here's what I'm willing to? Like? How do I be more myself? So my person will recognize me? How do I learn who I am? How do I incorporate? How can I take care of myself when I'm feeling this? Way? Right at this moment? Which could be hurt or alone? How do you be friend yourself? I'm here. How can I best take care and support myself? Even if I don't want to question mark? What can I do? Even if I don't feel like? What am I willing to do even if I don't feel like it?
This is how an inner dialogue begins to shift and change. You recognize exactly what the feeling is that you're feeling. And then you ask yourself what it is that you need in order to progress to give yourself a little bit of a win a little bit of a breath. And allow yourself to make some new choices and not get stuck in a hypnotic loop of you know, your own painful opinion. The Doom real? No, you have options. Oh, I have choices about how I'm feeling? How am I feeling right now. So many of us just don't know.
Next steps. Okay. If this has felt useful or helpful, I dare you and invite you to take it one step further. Consider re listening for the following the phrases and questions that stood out to you as ones that you'd be willing to incorporate into your own inner dialogue.
Hey, when I understand that, when I have a moment of self awareness, which is an opportunity, I'm going to see if I can try to remember and try on these questions or these phrases. And I'm gonna ask that you write them down. You put them on sticky notes, put them in a notebook, flip to the page, send yourself reminders of what those are in your calendar that can also be like you could do a wallpaper as a screensaver with these questions so that you are prompted, put them on the fridge. Put them in where the dog biscuits go just because like brain equals puppy who needs guidance and celebrations for progress.
It's retraining your brain in a gentle way where you're not beating yourself up inside your head I think you deserve something a little more gentle and a little bit more understanding. And this is one way to go about it.
So glad you're here. I do recommend that you write down what stood out to you and that you consider like putting it around in ways that you are going to help yourself. Remember that you want to talk a little bit differently to yourself, about what your choices are. And try to remember where it is you want to go. And how you can help yourself get there. Because you can, you 100% can. It'll take a little practice. And you can. Okay?
One more disclaimer, none of these things like please try to put together phrase after phrase that is gentle and different. This is for like, the advanced. Hey, how can I continue and get a sort of like that inner dialogue where it's a phrase, and then maybe a sentence? And then maybe it's a paragraph? Here's the disclaimer part and no time? Is this a viable or helpful thing for you to go in and bash yourself for? Quote, unquote, not doing it right? This is practice.
This is you making choices and you trying things out to see how they feel. Imagine that each thought was like a different coat. We'll do coats today, because pants off, honestly, like I don't enjoy trying on pants, it's like far too cumbersome. So let's like slip into some coats. Each thought is a coat to try them on. You have nothing to lose, you have infinity number of thought coats to slip into just try on. One may be better suited for one situation than another. Does that mean you throw out the code? No, it means you like let it be somewhere invisible. And not clogging up your whole self and you just get to the one that fits in the moment. Not doing anything wrong. You're just trying something new. This is brave, and it takes something.
So I want to celebrate you right now. For considering doing something new. Getting out of our own painful opinions is work and worthy work. I'm excited for you to reap some benefits and to feel better. Okay, that really is all I have. And I will talk to you again next week. With all my love and heart going out to you. Okay, talk to you next week. Bye.
Hi, this is Wendy, thank you so much for being here and spending time with me for you. Yeah, the whole purpose of walking through grief and loss is to find out how to feel better. Did you know there are tools and skills to be learned about how to do this?
Yeah, for real, and I do it. Let's get on a connection call. It's a 45 minute free call. We'd love to offer to you when you're ready. And we'll just see if we'd be a good fit to work together. If you're ready for a little more support, and not less, and if you're ready to feel a little bit better. And to find out how to learn these tools and skills. I'm ready for you. Reach out through my website. Connect with me directly through [email protected] and we'll set it up again we will all right. Till then take really good care.
